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The following articles and slide presentations are by Bahamian, Barrington H. Brennen MA Coun. Psy., MA Rel., NCP, BCCP, JP, a specialist in relationships.  He is a marriage and family therapist, counseling psychologist, nationally certified psychologist, Board Certified Clinical Psychotherapist (USA) an ordained minister of the gospel, a marriage officer and a Justice of the Peace for the Commonwealth of The Bahamas.   These articles are designed to provide insight, inspiration, restoration, information and healing for individuals and relationships.  If you are single, married, divorced, homosexual, heterosexual, lonely or happy, there is something here to encourage you and to help you "smile again."     Brennen's BIO

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    New Article(s)   Thursday, October 04, 2018

  1. Humility, Love, Pride, & the Good Nagging Wife

  2. James Julius Catalyn, a Wonderful Uncle

  3. A Letter from a Royal Bahamian Dog

  4. Lessons Learned from Royal Bahamian Dogs

  5. Gender Equality: Celebrating the Differences





    Romantic Relationships Courting, Dating, Marriage, Engagement

  1. Please Listen to What I am Saying and Not to What Your Are Hearing

  2. Cayenne Pepper in Your Marriage The Cruise Story

  3. Love Vs Infatuation

  4. Honey, Please Come to Bed

  5. Being a Married Female is a Pre-existing Condition

  6. Are You In a Situationship

  7. He Should Stay on His Knees

  8. Relationships With a Big Age Difference

  9. Make Friends with Time

  10. Please, Let's Talk

  11. She Wants A Leader

  12. Sex and the Single Life Slides from "Cure for the Common Life"

  13. I Cannot Get These Images Out of My Head

  14. Please Pay Rent to Your Parents

  15. I Need More Than a Peck

  16. Dating Puts You Out of Circulation

  17. Unhealthy Relationships Slide Presentation  Bahamas Harvest Church, May 31, 2014

  18. How To Stop An Affair

  19. Habits Used By Successful Couples

  20. Lord, Please Give Me A Good Husband

  21. Oxytocin and the Twenty-Second Hug

  22. You Cannot Have Peace in Your Marriage

  23. Too Old for Sex

  24. To Young to Love

  25. No Digital Affairs with Christmas

  26. The Ultimate Betrayal

  27. Smoke-Free Marriages

  28. Honey, I Appreciate You

  29. Seat Belts and Marriage

  30. Kiss Me Please A Remake

  31. Is Marriage On the Decline?

  32. The Do List for Married Couples

  33. She Has A Right to Know

  34. The Marriage Duet

  35. Blood Is Thicker Than Water

  36. Essentials of Marriage Preparation

  37. Intimate Partner Violence Quiz

  38. Tell The World You Are Getting Married

  39. ONLINE QUESTIONS:  What Kind of Woman Do You Want?

  40. What to Do On Valentines Day?

  41. Romantic Make-Over

  42. Honey, Let's Talk 

  43. Intellectual Intimacy 

  44. Spiritual Intimacy  

  45. Marriage and Divorce in the Bahamas

  46. Infidelity: Game or Sin? Part II

  47. Infidelity: Game or Sin?

  48. I Lost My Breasts And My Husband

  49. Marriage & Divorce & Live Births Statistics  Updated November 19, 2007

  50. Compulsory Pre-Marriage Health Certificate Needed  PDF FORMAT

  51. The Couple that Eats Johnny Cake Sticks Together (Sermon).  PDF Format

  52. The Secret of 51 Golden Years (Article)  PDF Format

  53. The Four Women In My Life

  54. Is Commitment Enough?  Part 2

  55. Is Commitment Enough?

  56. The Fire is Gone Out - When the Sex Drive is Dead

  57. Nurturing a Long Distance Relationship

  58. Opposite or Complementary?

  59. Don't Be Fooled, Flowers Aren't Enough

  60. Spicy and Sweet Month

  61. Making Weddings Sacred Once More - Part Two

  62. Making Weddings Sacred Once More - Part One

  63. Marital Conflict Seminar Handout

  64. The Golden Era of Marriage

  65. The Greatest of These Is Love

  66. A Perfect Marriage is Possible  PDF Format

  67. Forgive Him?!  No Way!

  68. Getting Married for the Wrong Reasons

  69. Love Makes No Demands

  70. When Loving You Is Destroying Me

  71. Dating Games

  72. Secret Ingredients for a Spicy Marriage

  73. Honey, Love Alone Will Not Do

  74. Is Your Lover Loving You?

  75. Wealth, Success, or Love?

  76. I Now Pronounce You "Man and Wife."

  77. Favoritism Destroys Families and Nations 

  78. How Do I know I the Shoe Fits?

  79. My Sweet Valentine 

  80. Kiss Me, Kiss Me, Kiss Me 1994

  81. Kiss Me Please A Remake 2009

  82. Honey, What do You What to do Tonight? 

  83. Time is Your Best Friend 

  84. I have Rights too, Baby"    

  85. How to Handle Conflicts   

  86. Marital Conflict Seminar Handout

  87. Toxic Intimacy

  88. Guidelines for Fighting With Your Spouse  PDF


Marriage Ceremony and Vows

  1. The Marriage Vows

  2. The Marriage Ceremony




Grief and Loss

  1. Complicated Grief

  2. Tips On Grieving Handout



Digital Challenges


  1. The Selfie Craze

  2. Those Annoying Cell Phones Are Still in the Way

  3. No Digital Affairs this Christmas

  4. Busy Hands, Lazy Brains

  5. Social Media Dilemma






  1. Forgive Instantly.  Trust Slowly

  2. Forgiveness is an Ugly Beast   2013

  3. Forgive Him?!  No Way! 




  1. Classical Music Everywhere

  2. Classical Music Can Reduce Crime

  3. Music and the Quality of Life

  4. Music, the Brain and Your Health

  5. The Junkanoo Pains     PDF Format  

  6. Junkanoo Isn't Enough






  1. The Porn Craze

  2. Pornography and Censorship  


    Sexual Relationships

  1. Sex Can Destroy a Relationship

  2. The ABCs of Great Sex

  3. Abortion: Freedom or Misery

  4. Is Sex Dirty or Sinful

  5. When A Man is Raped Part 2

  6. When A Man Is Raped Part 1

  7. From Subordination to Equality in Christ By Annick Brennen

  8. Abortion

  9. The Ultimate Betrayal

  10. Why Should I Not Have Sex Before Marriage

  11. Sexual Harassment

  12. Rape is Not Sex

  13. My Husband Raped Me

  14. Do Not Touch the Hips

  15. Keep You Hands Off

  16. Innocent or Guilty?

  17. We Need Healing In Our Church   (Part One)

  18. How to Help A Wounded Pastor  ( Part Two)

  19. Sexual Abuse Prevention & Healing Seminar for People in Power

  20. Marital Rape, Myth or Reality

  21. Sex and Driving  Article for Monday June 21, 2004 in the Nassau Guardian

  22. Sex In The Forbidden Zone - Part IV "Wounded Men   PDF FORMAT  New

  23. Sex In The Forbidden Zone - Part III "Wounded WomenPDF Format

  24. Sex In the Forbidden Zone - Part II  PDF Format

  25. Sex In The Forbidden Zone - Part I  PDF Format

  26. Sex and Driving 

  27. I prefer Experienced Men

  28. The Man I am Pregnant For Isn't My Husband - Part 1   Part  2

  29. Releasing Sexual Tension -   Part 2  

  30. Dangerous Sexual Secrets  Written May 1, 2002



      Roles in Marriage & Gender Equality

  1. A Demonstration of Love is Needed

  2. The Imperative Vote

  3. "Yes" Is The Natural Way

  4. Opportunity or Dilemma

  5. Understanding the Terms

  6. She Wants A Leader

  7. What If?  Gender equality and amendments to the Constitution of The Bahamas

  8. Multidimensional Men for Gender Equality

  9. Rights

  10. Men, Here's How to Love the Other Gender  Gender Equality Rightly Understood, Part Two

  11. Men, Here’s How to Love the Other Gender  Gender Equality Rightly Understood, Part One

  12. She Is Not Your Helper

  13. Wives are not Maids

  14. Fixing the Testosterone and Sharing the Power

  15. Leadership is the Top Stumbling Block in Marriage

  16. ONLINE QUESTIONS:  What Kind of Woman Do You Want?

  17. Anymore Good Women Available?  PDF Format

  18. The Budget Debate  PDF Format

  19. The Sample Budget and Guidelines

  20. The Unwanted Virtuous Woman  PDF Format

  21. The Unwanted Virtuous Man  PDF Format

  22. Lord Please Give Me  House Wife   

  23. Should I Get Pregnant or Have a Career? 

  24. The Five Kinds of Wives

  25. Gentlemen, Please Remove Your Hats   The Five Kinds of Husbands

  26. Honey, Let's Led Together - Part One

  27. Forgive Him?!  No Way!



  1. Retirement: Blessing or Curse?

  2. Aged Vigor



    Male Leadership In Crisis Series

  1. Male Leadership In Crisis  Part One

  2. Male Leadership In Crisis  Part Two

  3. Male Leadership In Crisis  Part Three

  4. Dad, I Need You  Part Four

  5. Would the Real Man Please Stand Up  Part Five

  6. Is Testosterone to Blame? Part Six




  1. The Pain of Separation and Divorce

  2. Why So Many Divorces?  PDF Format

  3. Until Death Do Us Part

  4. Divorce Up 700%

  5. Until Divorce Do Us Part

  6. For the Sake of the Children - Part 1  Part 2

  7. God Hates Divorce and Violence


 Abuse/Violence Quizzes

  1. Parental Violence Quiz

  2. Intimate Partner Violence Quiz

  3. The Violence Quiz



    Abuse  Spouse, Child, & Sexual Abuse

  1. Dress is Not a Reason to Rape

  2. Marriage is a Public Affair

  3. Protecting Against Acquaintance Rape

  4. No More Tears Left to Cry

  5. Childhood Sex With My Father Still Pains Me.

  6. From Subordination to Equality in Christ By Annick Brennen

  7. The Church:  Caught Between the Devil and a Woman   Sept 23, 2010 Intimate Partner Abuse

  8. My Husband Raped Me

  9. The Lord Told Me

  10. The Church Must Change

  11. Please Remember Our Children 

  12. Sexual Abuse Prevention & Healing Seminar for People in Power

  13. Intimate Partner Violence Quiz

  14. Parental Violence Quiz

  15. I Can't Leave My Parents  PDF FORMAT  Article on child abuse

  16. What is Child Abuse? 

  17. Recognizing Sexual Abuse and What to Do About It

  18. Making a Non-Violent Bahamas 

  19. Why do Christian Husbands Abuse Their Wives?  - Part 1   Part 2   Part 3

  20. Domestic Violence and the Church  PDF Format 13 pages Updated October 15, 2001

  21. Religion, the Church and Domestic Violence Slide Show Download WP Presentations  or  Go Show - Ready to Run on Your Computer-    PDF FORMAT    Added June 24, 2002

  22. A Deadly Formula for Violence  

  23. Why Do Women Stay?

  24. I Can't Leave My Parents  PDF FORMAT  Why do children stay in abusive relationships?

  25. Effect of Abuse on Children

  26. Should I Leave Him?

  27. The Voice of A Little Child in Pain  Incest  Written April 7, 2002

  28. Dad and Uncles, Exposing Their Secret  Incest

  29. Dad, You're Hurting Me Again  Incest

  30. Why Do Men Stay in Abusive Relationships?  Added September 15, 2001


Campus Rage - Shame-based Relations -  Ending violence

  1. Campus Rage Begins in the Home  PDF Format

  2. Send Angry Parents Back to School PDF Format

Cigarette Smoking - Relationship

  1. Smoke-Free Marriages


    Parenting Parent-Child Relationship, Parenting Skills

  1. Back to Summer Vacation Part II - My Story

  2. Please Do Not Buy a Car for Your Teenager

  3. Technology Black-outs for Children Under Age 12

  4. Dad's Please Hug Your Daughters

  5. Dad, Please Stay at Home

  6. Busy Hands, Lazy Brains

  7. Parental Tips for the New School Year

  8. Our Great Dads

  9. Back to Summer Plans

  10. Parental Power Virus

  11. Education and Family Revolution

  12. No Beating, Please

  13. Education and Family Revolution

  14. 23 Stupid Things Parents Do To Mess Up Their Children’s Lives  Updated July 27, 2012

  15. 23 Stupid Things Explanations

  16. The School Trip Nightmare

  17. The Birthday Party Dilemma

  18. Where Will Your Teenager Be On Saturday Night Part 2

  19. Where Will Your Teenager Be On Saturday Night?

  20. School Rules for Parents

  21. What Teens Need from Adults

  22. Teenagers, Violence, and Culpability

  23. Another 864 Hours Wasted

  24. Please Remember Our Children 

  25. Prom or Transcript? 

  26. My Father: A Real Father

  27. Education Reform Can Reduce Crime

  28. Releasing the Violence Trap

  29. The Violence Trap

  30. Crime, Family and God

  31. Homework Strategies for Parents

  32. Back To School With No Television

  33. The Obedience Trap

  34. Parental Violence Quiz

  35. Summer Mania Parenting during the school holidays

  36. The Effects of Parenting On Society  Presented at Calvary Bible Church, Nassau , Oct 26, 2003

  37. Raising Children  Slide Presentation to Go.  No software needed.  

  38. Back to Basics.  What Are They?  PDF FORMAT

  39. What Village Can Raise My Child?  PDF FORMAT

  40. Grammy's Tired Today  PDF Format

  41. When In-Laws Get In The Way    PDF FORMAT

  42. Mom, Please Listen to Me

  43. Keep the Children Out Of The Bed??!!

  44. It's Time to Close the Church Doors Part One

  45. It's Time to Close the Church Doors Part Two

  46. When the Good Lord Created Fathers

  47. When Parents Nurture, Children Blossom  Part 1

  48. When Parents Nurture, Children Blossom  Part 2

  49. Mom Ruins Son's Life  PDF Format Originally "Mom please leave your son alone"

  50. Talk So Your Child Will Listen

  51. What to say when your child asks about the birds and the bees?

  52. Growth and Development of Children and Teens

  53. A Father's Love 

  54. Mom's The Word  PDF Format  Written May 8, 2002



    Stress   Added October 7, 2001

  1. Serets to a Healthier, Happier Life:  Give Thanks   Tribune interview with Jeffarah Gibson  Nov 29, 2011

  2. Stress, a Blessing and a Curse

  3. Stress, a Blessing and a curse - Part 2

  4. Stress, "Laughing at wesef"  - Part 3

  5. Humor for Stress - Part 4



    Child Discipline

  1. Discipline or Punishment

  2. Rules Without Relationships  Part 1

  3. Rules Without Relationships  Part 2

  4. Teachers, Please Be Nice  Rules Without Relationships Part 3

  5. More Good Teachers Needed Rules Without Relationships Part 4


    Homosexuality  Compassion / Understanding / Recovery / Acceptance
  1. Must They Change

  2. Homosexuality and the Church

  3. Gays Are Not Our Problems   

  4. Overcoming the Homosexual Lifestyle  

  5. Condemnation or  Compassion  Added July 24, 2003

  6. Facing My Deepest Fears

  7. God Loves Homosexuals

  8. Learning to Love Homosexuals  

  9. Let's Make Him Straight

  10. Homosexuality: Hope or Dilemma  This article is for publication in a Adventist magazine and includes some thoughts from previous articles 




  1. Technology Black-Out for Children Under Age 12

  2. To Young to Watch Television

  3. It's Time to Get Rid of the Television

  4. Back To School With No Television

  5. Television and Sexual Feelings

  6. Television Blackout Time



  1. Gambling with Sex

  2. Is Gambling Really Our Problem?




  1. TEST   

  2. Marijuana and You, Part I

  3. The Power of Love by Ann Albury

  4. The Power of Love by Ann Albury

  5. My Wise List for 2017

  6. Please Don't Say that  - "Did God Put Donald Trump is Office?

  7. Diversity or Exclusivity

  8. Cigarette Smoking Should Only Be Allowed In Private

  9. Are You Retiring or Transitioning?       

  10. Win Their Confidence?  You Got to be Kidding!

  11. Mysterious Walking Trees and Light Poles

  12. May I Ask Who is Calling?

  13. Save a Life, Hold Your Tongue

  14. Summer Explosion 2015--What To Do?

  15. Winning of Souls--Is It Truly Our Only Purpose

  16. Women Without Children

  17. Resistance is Good for You and Your Relationship

  18. Junkanoo Carnival . . . Pain or Opportunity

  19. Power Naps Can Work Miracles

  20. Dress Code for Photographers

  21. My Dearest Mother and Me

  22. How Nasty Can We Get?

  23. More Gumption Needed in 2015

  24. Giving Thursday  December 23, 2014

  25. Friendship Thursday December 18

  26. Smiling Thursday December 11

  27. Kindness Thursday December 4

  28. The Social Media Dilemma

  29. The Luxury of Being Tired

  30. Stop and Pick Up the Trash

  31. Abortion: Freedom or Misery

  32. The Butterfly Principle

  33. A Message of Love to the Nation

  34. Aged Vigor

  35. Please Stop Killing the Innocents

  36. Men Who Sit on Toilet Seats

  37. Complicated Grief

  38. Tips on Pastoral Counseling PDF Slides

  39. What More Can I Write?

  40. A Constitution for Everyone

  41. A Child is Born

  42. Who Comes to Your Church?

  43. Happiness Killers

  44. The Bully Boss

  45. Traffic Laws in My Head

  46. How Fast Are Your Driving?

  47. Causes of Crime

  48. Identifying Poisonous Teachings

  49. Lights Off

  50. Mental Health After a Hurricane

  51. I am happy we are not a Christian nation

  52. Retirement and Family Life Seminar Slide Show Bahamas Electricity Corporation 2011

  53. New Government Ministry Needed

  54. Overcoming Life's Challenges [ Show ]  [ PDFSlide Presentation to Teachers (T. A. Thompson Junior High School)

  55. Say No to Christmas loans — please!

  56. More PEPSI Needed

  57. The Lord Told Me

  58. The Church Must Change

  59. West Jamaica "Bone of My Bone"

  60. What Teens Need from Adults

  61. Teenagers, Violence, and Culpability

  62. Let's Give Them a Second Chance Helping the Ex-con

  63. Family and Crime Reduction in The Bahamas  A Speech

  64. Education Reform Can Reduce Crime

  65. Crime, Family and God

  66. The Last Days . . . Family & Worship Controversy (Slide Show Sermon)

  67. The Physiological, Psychological & Behavioral Impact of Music  Slide Show

  68. Okay, You Can Have Your Peas and Rice

  69. No Peas and Rice In 2005

  70. My Emotions After the HurricaneTips to help you cope with crisis

  71. Whose Prayer Did God Answer?

  72. Sex and Driving 

  73. Who Delivered Your Christmas Gift?  PDF Format

  74. Gender Issues In Tertiary Education  PDF Format   

  75. Corel Slide Presentation for Gender Issues   No Software Needed  Use the space bar or arrow keys to move the slides forward.

  76. Revival!?!  What About the Family 

  77. New Year Transformational Resolutions    PDF Format

  78. The Gift of Poinsettias   PDF Format

  79. Fixing Our Nation   PDF Format

  80. To "Let Go" Takes Love  PDF Format

  81. I Am a Vegetarian, And So Is My Dog  PDF Format  June 2002

  82. The Meaning of Family Author Unknown

  83. Tradition Must Make Sense

  84. Look Forward to Being Very, Very, Old  Part 1

  85. Look Forward to Being Very, Very, Old  Part 2

  86. Christmas Sadness

  87. AIDS!   Let's Make a Difference

  88. Worry Can be Dangerous to Your Health

  89. Laughter is Good Medicine, So is Love, Tears, & a Good Diet"

  90. Why Should I be the One To Die?

  91. More Good Women Needed (Stupid Things Women Do)

  92. A New Bread of Bahamian Men Needed  (More Good Men Needed)

  93. No Crabs for Our Fathers

  94. Suicide is Forever

  95. The Society of Child-Like Grown Ups

  96. Beatitudes to Teenagers  PDF Format

  97. What is God's Will  

  98. Whose Prayer Did God Answer?

  99. Why Stop the Crime?  PDF Format

  100. The Golden Era Of Virtuous Bahamian Men

  101. Where Will Our Cruise Ship Dock?


    Seminar Slide Shows All shows are in WordPerfect Presentations

  1. Returning to the Heat--Restoring the Passion - February 26, 2017

  2. Untying the Knot Slides from "Cure for the Common Life"

  3. Relationship Fireproof Seminar At Breezes Hotel, March 13, 2015.  By Antioch Baptist Church

  4. Keeping the Fire in Your Marriage The Women’s Convention of the Bahamas National Baptist Missionary And Educational, Held at Transfiguration Baptist Church February 21, 2014, Nassau

  5. Farewell to the Brennens  Living Fatih Seventh-day Adventist Church Janaury 19, 2013

  6. Refresh, Recommit, Reconnect Slide Show Marriage Seminar

  7. Peace in Your Marriage Slide Show

  8. Barefoot Sabbath at Living Faith Sermon Slide Show for June 7, 2008

  9. The Last Days . . . Family & Worship Controversy (Slide Show Sermon)

  10. The Physiological, Psychological & Behavioral Impact of Music  Slide Show

  11. Raising Children  Slide Presentation to Go.  No software needed.  

  12. "In Partnership With God"  Show to go.  No software needed.  Slides for the Consecration Service for Women's and Children's Ministries, February 6, 2004

  13. "In Partnership With God"  PDF Format for printing

  14. "I Don't Love You Anymore" Corel Presentation Presented at Mount Mariah Baptist Church, Nassau, December 5, 2003

  15. The Effects of Parenting On Society  Presented at Calvary Bible Church, Nassau , October 26, 2003

    1. Power Point Slide Show No Software Needed   

    2. Power Point Slide Show To Down Load On Your Computer

  16. Hope Sermon Slides  863K

  17. Broken Cisterns  WordPerfect Presentation Format  - Sermon Slides

  18. Domestic Violence and the Church "What the Church Can Do"  WP .6 mb

  19. Religion, the Church and Domestic Violence  WP 

  20. Sexual Abstinence  WordPerfect Presentation Format - Seminar Slides

  21. Two Shall Become One Marriage Seminar Slides  WordPerfect  1.2 mb

  22. Retirement and Family Life Seminar .6mb   Participants Handout of Slides Information (Abbreviated) PDF FORMAT  2 Pages

  23. Retirement and Family Life Social Survey PDF FORMAT

  24. Affirmation, Appreciation, Commitment Slide Show to Go No software needed

  25. Affirmation, Appreciation, Commitment Slide Show to Download (WordPerfect Presentation Needed) 1.2 MB

  26. Reach Out And Touch Audio Sermon  -  Family Ministries Day at Centreville, February 28, 2004





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